We took a solid week off and we’re not sorry. Also, for some reason I (Leanne) recorded this episode in a squeaky, possessed chair, for that I am sorry.
The things we cannot even
Jennie- Stranger Things on Netflix
Leanne- How much I love when my kids are can asleep so I realize their level of awesomeness.
10 Things We’ve Learned in 10 years of marriage
You’re not always going to get along- you’re not actually one flesh, gross. So when needed, walk away. Just for a little bit until you can see the other person’s point.
Make your home a safe place to be yourselves- except once a week where you have a festivus style airing of grievances, no feats of strength.
Don’t let your kids ruin your sex life- sometimes we lock our door in the morning… to get to funkytown without making it feel like chore time.
Believe the best in each other- Don’t assume every statement is loaded with snarky undertones.
Communicate clearly- No passive aggressive games, but you can still tie your husband’s socks to the steering wheel, so it’s cool.
Laugh & Have Fun- And definitely throw papaya at each other’s heads.
Offer to help your partner before they ask- Take care of each other before it gets code red crazy.
Don’t be afraid to go to counseling- You will pick up some valuable skills and helpful tips for working through anger and other issues.
Be a team- Know what the other one is up to and play to your strengths and differences
Try New Things Together- Adventure brings you together!
Recommendations From This Episode
Bittersweet By Shauna Niequist
The Zim Zum of Marriage By Rob and Kristen Bell
The Gift Exercise (free therapy bonus!)
I- Inferiority / Inadequacy
T- Trauma or Pain
Digging Deeper Exercise:
- What is the Behavior that my spouse does that triggers my anger?
- Identify the root of the anger using GIFT.
- When have I ever felt this feeling before? (perhaps at a specific time as a child)
- What do I do when I feel this feeling? What is my behavior?
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